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Imagine this.
A woman, for the sake of my story, is in a marriage with a partner who does not respect her. He insults her regularly, belittles her efforts to improve herself or her situation, and minimizes her feelings.
In fact, when she tries to stand up for herself, things get even worse. The partner calls into question her memories of the event. He dismisses the way things made her feel, calling the emotions “ridiculous” or “stupid.” He convinces her she’s overreacting and that he was only trying to do what was best for her. When she brings something up, he completely rewrites the event, causing her to doubt what actually happened because she’s in a vulnerable state due to the constant abuse.
In a situation like this, the abused partner often feels powerless, confused, and unable to leave the situation. They are at a disadvantage because they’ve been influenced to doubt their own reality. This leaves them trapped deeper and deeper in the abusive scenario. They feel unable to escape because they’re really not sure what actually happened. Were they blowing things out of proportion? Are they, in fact, stupid, forgetful, and inept?
Abusive relationships follow a pattern. There’s a period of breaking the victim down, isolating them from their support systems, and making them dependent on the abuser. Then, the abused partner is maneuvered into the belief that she can’t get by on her own.
This master manipulation is how people become trapped in abusive relationships.
And, as I’m about to show, not all abusive relationships are one-on-one romantic relationships.
What is gaslighting?
Medical News Today defines gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a person or group causes someone to question their own sanity, memories, or perception of reality. People who experience gaslighting may feel confused, anxious, or as though they cannot trust themselves.
The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1944 classic film (and before that, the play), Gaslight. In the story, a husband tries to make his wife believe she is suffering from a mental illness. Starring Ingrid Bergman and Charles Boyer, it’s well worth a watch.
Gaslighting is a form of narcissistic abuse. For a quick refresher on the definition of a narcissist and the techniques they use, go here.
Forbes offers the following signs you are being gaslit:
Signs to watch for include:
The “Twilight Zone” effect. Victims of gaslighting often report feeling like a situation is surreal—like it’s happening on a different plane from the rest of their life.
Language describing you or your behavior as crazy, irrational or overemotional. “When I asked women about their partners’ abusive tactics, they often described being called a ‘crazy bitch,’” Sweet writes in “The Sociology of Gaslighting” in American Sociological Review. “This phrase came up so frequently, I began to think of it as the literal discourse of gaslighting.”
Being told you’re exaggerating.
Feeling confused and powerless after leaving an interaction.
Isolation. Many gaslighters make efforts to isolate victims from friends, family and other support networks.
Tone policing. A gaslighter may criticize your tone of voice if you challenge them on something. This is a tactic used to flip the script and make you feel that you’re the one to blame, rather than your abuser.
A cycle of warm-cold behavior. To throw a victim off balance, a gaslighter may alternate between verbal abuse and praise, often even in the same conversation.
Gaslighting is a deliberate attempt to provoke self-doubt, confusion, and dependence.
How does someone gaslight another person?
Again, let’s look to the experts. Medical News Today provides these examples of how gaslighting might take place:
- Countering: This is when someone questions a person’s memory. They may say things such as, “Are you sure about that? You have a bad memory,” or “I think you are forgetting what really happened.”
- Withholding: This involves someone pretending they do not understand the conversation, or refusing to listen, to make a person doubt themselves. For example, they might say, “Now you are just confusing me,” or “I do not know what you are talking about.”
- Trivializing: This occurs when a person belittles or disregards how someone else feels. They may accuse them of being “too sensitive” or overreacting in response to valid and reasonable concerns.
- Denial: Denial involves a person refusing to take responsibility for their actions. They may do this by pretending to forget what happened, saying they did not do it, or blaming their behavior on someone else.
- Diverting: With this technique, a person changes the focus of a discussion by questioning the other person’s credibility. For example, they might say, “That is just nonsense you read on the internet. It is not real.”
- Stereotyping: An article in the American Sociological Review says that a person may intentionally use negative stereotypes about someone’s gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality, nationality, or age to gaslight them. For example, they may say that no one will believe a woman if she reports abuse.
After a period of time, this emotional barrage results in the target of the gaslighting suffering from confusion, doubt, and self-blame.
- feeling uncertain of their perceptions
- frequently questioning if they are remembering things correctly
- believing they are irrational or “crazy”
- feeling incompetent, unconfident, or worthless
- constantly apologizing to the abusive person
- defending the abusive person’s behavior to others
- becoming withdrawn or isolated from others
The Forbes article offered these specific examples of gaslighting in romantic relationships.
“Ebony’s partner would steal her money and then tell her she was ‘careless’ about finances and had lost it herself.”
“Adriana’s boyfriend hid her phone and then told her she had lost it, in a dual effort to confuse her and prevent her from communicating with others.”
“Jenn described her ex-boyfriend as a ‘chameleon’ who made up small stories to confuse her, like lying about what color shirt he had worn the day before to make her feel disoriented.”
“Emily described her ex-husband stealing her keys so she could not leave the house and then insisting she had lost them ‘again.’”
But if you think this phenomenon is limited to women being abused by their husbands or boyfriends, you’d be wrong.
Gaslighting doesn’t just happen in romantic relationships.
Gaslighting is a complicated thing. While it’s common in abusive romantic relationships, it can also occur in unhealthy parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, or even workplaces. But that’s not all. It can also occur on a much broader scale.
Racial gaslighting
According to an article in Politics, Group, and Identities, racial gaslighting is when people apply gaslighting techniques to an entire racial or ethnic group in order to discredit them. For example, a person or institution may say that an activist campaigning for change is irrational or “crazy.”
Political gaslighting
Political gaslighting occurs when a political group or figure lies or manipulates information to control people, according to an article in the Buffalo Law Review.
For example, the person or political party may downplay things their administration has done, discredit their opponents, imply that critics are mentally unstable, or use controversy to deflect attention away from their mistakes.
Institutional gaslighting
Institutional gaslighting occurs within a company, organization, or institution, such as a hospital. For example, they may portray whistleblowers who report problems as irrational or incompetent, or deceive employees about their rights.
This often occurs to cover up a mistake that could result in the person who erred facing punitive consequences or to keep people “in their place.” It’s a control mechanism, pure and simple.
Have we been gaslit by our own government?
I don’t think it’s farfetched to say that we, the people of the United States of America, have been gaslit.
Does this sound familiar? Lockdowns that keep you away from friends and loved ones? Losing your income and becoming dependent on handouts doled out by the government? Being censored and mocked when you say anything that is not in line with the official narrative? Being treated like a crazy conspiracy theorist who should be punished because of the harm you’re causing to others if you refuse to go along?
When you look at it this way, it feels like the entire US government and media have colluded to abuse the people. Many of the Covid-related “truths” that were promoted by the government and the media that we were not allowed to dispute have now been proven to be false. Stories we couldn’t question about the origins of the pandemic have been proven false. In another incident of broad-scale gaslighting unrelated to the pandemic, a lot of evidence has been produced that shows the Biden family may have received money from influence-peddling, but the media tells us not to believe it.
And like good little victims, it seems like a hefty portion of the country is refusing to believe the evidence, instead believing in the good intentions of their abusers. They’ve been gaslit, brainwashed, and are unable to break free of the manipulation.
And it’s still going on.
Recently Supreme Court Justice Neil Gorsuch wrote a scathing opinion of the US government’s handling of the Covid pandemic, saying that we “have experienced the greatest intrusions on civil liberties in the peacetime history of this country.”
“Executive officials across the country issued emergency decrees on a breathtaking scale. Governors and local leaders imposed lockdown orders forcing people to remain in their homes. They shuttered businesses and schools, public and private. They closed churches even as they allowed casinos and other favored businesses to carry on. They threatened violators not just with civil penalties but with criminal sanctions too. They surveilled church parking lots, recorded license plates, and issued notices warning that attendance at even outdoor services satisfying all state social-distancing and hygiene requirements could amount to criminal conduct. They divided cities and neighborhoods into color-coded zones, forced individuals to fight for their freedoms in court on emergency timetables, and then changed their color-coded schemes when defeat in court seemed imminent,” he said.
At the federal level, he highlighted not only immigration decrees but vaccine mandates, the regulation of landlord-tenant relations and pressure on social media companies to suppress “misinformation.”
The gaslighting blowback was immediate, with breathlessly outraged headlines.
Slate eloquently opined, “Neil Gorsuch’s List of “Civil Liberties Intrusions” Is, Uh, Missing a Few Things.” making sure to throw plenty of insulting talking points into their introductory paragraph in their attempt to liken a Supreme Court Justice who was educated at Harvard Law, Oxford, Georgetown, and Columbia, to an ignorant relative one merely tolerates. And they insinuated he was a racist.
Gorsuch has long railed against such policies, and his opinions have taken on an increasingly shrill tone, like the Fox News–poisoned uncle who hectors you about the plandemic in 3,000-word Facebook comments. The justice’s rant in Arizona v. Mayorkas, however, hits a new low, moving beyond the usual yada-yada grievance parade to issue a thesis statement of sorts…
…As Vox’s Ian Millhiser quickly pointed out, this sweeping claim leaves out two “intrusions on civil liberties” that any person with a basic grasp of history and sanity would surely rank as worse than pandemic policies: slavery and Jim Crow.
An opinion piece published in the NY Times gasped, “Neil Gorsuch Has Given Himself Away,” made it seem as if the Justice was belittling every other civil rights mishap in the history of America while also blithely disregarding the folks who died during the pandemic.
The New Republic condescendingly liberal-splained to the rest of us “What Neil Gorsuch Got Wrong About the Pandemic,” stating that “The justice’s vision of the judiciary’s role in public health may be more dangerous than any Covid-era restriction.”
The site Above The Law literally said Gorsuch was stupid in the piece, “For An Originalist, Gorsuch Is Clearly Slacking On His Definitions And Their Historical Meanings.” The subheading reads, “Is what he said stupid? Yes. But let’s be technical here.”
Law and Crime website also played the race card and did so right in the headline: Neil Gorsuch implies COVID restrictions were worse than slavery and Jim Crow, and the internet noticed.
Let’s look at that definition of political gaslighting again…
For example, the person or political party may downplay things their administration has done, discredit their opponents, imply that critics are mentally unstable, or use controversy to deflect attention away from their mistakes.
Oof. If that textbook case of gaslighting isn’t embarrassing, it should be. Then again, narcissists are rarely embarrassed.
The gaslighting will escalate.
Another thing about narcissists: they just get angry when they’re called out. They will respond by gaslighting you harder or seeking to “ruin” you. (source) They’ll punish you with a loss of “privileges,” money, material goods, and freedom. We’ve watched it happen again and again in our cancel culture media. Some of us have been unfortunate enough to have personal relationships with narcissists and learned this the hard way.
The only way to end narcissistic abuse and gaslighting is to recognize it and remove yourself from the situation as much as you can. Obviously, when it’s our entire government and society, that becomes complicated. You may be stuck with just recognizing it. But that in itself gives you a certain amount of freedom and personal power. It helps you get off the hamster wheel, and you begin to spot the manipulations more easily.
One thing we can be sure of is that this will escalate as more and more people say, “No, that’s not what happened.” This is something we can expect, and in some small way, maybe we can take comfort in the response. Perhaps we can smile to ourselves because we know those who were trying to manipulate us all are on the defensive.
But what do you think? Do you believe the mainstream media, the liberal pundits, social media, and our government are gaslighting us? Do you think they’re trying to get us to remember the events of the pandemic differently than how those events actually unfolded? Have you ever experienced gaslighting on a personal level? What do you believe is the best way to handle this?
Let’s talk about gaslighting in the comments section.
About Daisy
Daisy Luther is a coffee-swigging, adventure-seeking, globe-trotting blogger. She is the founder and publisher of three websites. 1) The Organic Prepper, which is about current events, preparedness, self-reliance, and the pursuit of liberty; 2) The Frugalite, a website with thrifty tips and solutions to help people get a handle on their personal finances without feeling deprived; and 3) PreppersDailyNews.com, an aggregate site where you can find links to all the most important news for those who wish to be prepared. Her work is widely republished across alternative media and she has appeared in many interviews.
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Unbelievable timing Daisy. I’m saving this post.
It is a slow creep. It amazes me how an otherwise very strong willed, opinionated woman can slowly be gaslight so easily until one day it’s like a closet full of clutter coming crashing down on your head. ‘How did all this get in here?!’
The problem is, how can you share with the one gaslighting that they are doing it?! It’s a double edged sword most of the time.
I’m glad you liked the article.
As for sharing it, they don’t care if you think they’re gaslighting. They’ll just double down on the gaslighting and work even harder to get other people on “their side” instead of yours. That will include trying to discredit you or make you seem like a nutcase.
The “win” is to see what they’re doing and build up your own immunity to being gaslit. Become more confident, keep better records, and do what you can to free yourself from needing them.
Just a big WOW. 🙂 Soo, do you also follow Dr. Henry Cloud too? Because after closing your article I opened his daily email One Thing healing series only to learn about…gaslighting!
I’m sitting here just shaking my head about God’s timing with what is apparently something I I must learn about. 😉
I think I’d enjoy coffee with you. ?
Can we really share? Seems like they won’t listen to reason. They are NEVER wrong. IO could not tell him anything b/c he knew everything…Nothing I told the man was right into…. I am retired, and was a teacher but yet in his mind I didn’t know what I was talking about…I told him he was acting like a know it all and he thought it was funny… Had trouble taking anything serious. He would write me 2 paragraphs just “explaining” himself…They always justify their words/actions. They blame it on the victim, whatever it was. They are defensive and get upset at the drop of a feather. They refuse to ever take any blame or be responsible for their own actions. Always have excuses or what they call reasons to saying or doing something. It’s always someone else’s fault. And it never ends. The relationship feels like you’re walking on ice. Feels your close to a sinkhole and it looks solid but it’s not so then you have to maneuver around it in order to not fall into the hole. It’s a dysfunctional relationship that is toxic from head to toe. The intimacy might be great but otherwise no. It can feel like hell on earth… I was in a relationship like this for the past almost 3 months but online for most of that time, other than 2 days with him…I could not keep him happy. His past was apparently all messed up from child abuse to spousal abuse and then it was just one thing after the other… It felt like I was in a web, and it was hard to weave out of it Yesterday it was over. His ph. # is now off of my cell ph. I have deleted our conversations and am determined to not communicate anymore for any reason…. He would bless me out, get me told and then tell me, “Well you would think you are used to me by now and know I never meant any of that stuff”… NO, he meant it all but would not admit it. I know the signs now and I am DONE with it… Best way to handle it now if, if he contacts me again, ignore it and eventually he will figure out I am DONE… I tried to help him and tell him this is NOT working but after he would bless me out, then he would be all sweet and write me how wonderful I am and how much he needs me and doesn’t have anybody else etc. Trying to get me to reply again and wanted to make up. But every other day or so it would be an argument. NOTHING went smoothly for long…. We were clearly NOT on the same page. We had trouble agreeing on basic things… SO it’s over on my end and I wish him well but not with me…. Now I am more peaceful and feel that the stress of all this has been lifted and hopefully the next man I meet will be “normal”. Are they any normal people left? Gosh, I hope so…
I feel your stress. My mother and my eldest son were/are both narcissists and the only way to deal with them is to cut them out, root and branch. Hardest thing I ever had to do as I was an only child. Haven’t had contact with our eldest for almost 13 years and it’s been so peaceful and stress free. Hang in there, it gets better and always be on your guard as I was sucked in to another situation with an online “chum” just a few years ago. They are so good at what they do that she had me going, and then when I told her she wasn’t being fair…..lied about things to our group of friends, and then blocked me. Lost of few “friends” which I didn’t worry about, but man…still kick myself for not seeing those red flags. Thing I don’t like is I’ve lost my trust in most people.
That’s tough. I get it. It is all you can do.
We all need to slow down and think things over. Anyone who doesn’t like that, really shouldn’t be trusted.
The worst part is that a lot of people who are not the government have proven themselves to be toxic, abusive, gaslighting narcissists. They are just as bad as the creeps at the top whom they worship because they are obsessed with power and image.
We should remember how they behaved to prepare for more of the same in the future. Never trust or let them anywhere near us again. Cutting off communication entirely is best.
Have a friend who recently got out of an abusive relationship that had many of the hallmarks of Gaslighting.
Up until the end, she was in complete denial of it happening.
Very sad.
Watching Fauci, Walensky and Weingarten try to rewrite their roles in the COVID lockdown is all the more reason why we must not forget nor forgive.
Excellent summation!!
Before moving on to institutional gas-lighting cases, this sentence – “But if you think this phenomenon is limited to women being abused by their husbands or boyfriends, you’d be wrong” – should have been followed by mentioning that women gaslighting men happens as much as the reverse, never once mentioned. Take it from someone raised in a family where that was the norm.
When Forbes publishes an article critical of the Cabal play book, you’ve got to realize there’s a catch. In this case, it’s that DEI offshoot known as “demonizing men,” sideline to the broader “demonizing whites” color revolution project. Having just written an article critiquing that “anti-racism” divide-and-conquer policy, not helpful to perpetuate its “demonizing males” sub-focus.
I get where you’re coming from. But you have to also understand that it’s impossible for me to cover every possible gaslighting interpersonal relationship in an article about institutional gaslighting. I used an example that I felt more people could relate to, then added a disclaimer. If I added an example of every other potential situation, the article would be ten thousand words. I’m glad you added the comment to help this seem more relatable to other relationships not specifically listed.
One of the sad things about us (normals) is that we do not understand how the sociopaths/narcissists can do this to us. We have to understand that about 1-4% of any given population (Drs. M. Stout, R. Hare) are the bad actors in our society. They do not think like us. They see people as objects of their play, to be done as they see fit.
They tend to gravitate towards positions of leadership and government. They also see their own traits in others and band together as long as their goals align. But they will turn on each other just as quickly as they come together.
Recognize you are being played. Keep a journal of events and note any witnesses (keep a separate code book to identify principles), remember the Power and Control Wheel (textbook attacks on you).
The problem with thinking every one is Gaslighting you, is a real problem. It is it’s own form of Crazy. There are lots crazy people out there, men and women and no gaslighting is necessary, because they actually are that way.
And as a Counter to the article’s feminine bias; You tube is full of videos where
a woman hits another vehicle, but blames the other driver, as hitting their car.
Or the videos where a woman swears “she never said that”, only to be proved wrong as it was caught on video just minutes prior, of her saying exactly that.
Then there is the “Me Too” movement; full of “faulty” memories (gaslighting) blaming men for things that only happened in their imagination. Or all the rape/ sexual attack allegations that have been proven false or later admitted by the accuser that they were totally made up. Lots of crazy, mal-adjusted people out there, Men and women. So don’t put it all on the men.
Gaslighting exists and is done by both sexes, Governments Politicians, Social and Political movements. Not just by men, using it against women.
On a political scale I don’t think the problem with the comments on article was Gaslighting, as much as it was spin. Though they are closely related to each other.
But yes, the Government has gaslighted us on their Covid 19 vaccine talking points. Going from the 100 % safe and effective, to just helping you not get a bad case of Covid, while pretending that they never said it was that safe or effective in the first place.
Abusive Relationships are common. Especially between Governments and their Subjects. History is full of accounts of that occurring.
I guess I didn’t read male VS female in the article too deeply but as I do when reading anything, see if it applies to me. I apparently overlook the gender role comparisons.
At least I do.
Excellent article!!
Well done!!
Thanks so much!!
I just ignore them all. Reason being, that I believe there is nothing we can do to change the way things are going now. And they will be the first to go if there is ever a war in our land.
This sounds sort of fatalistic, but you can’t change what is happening, you can only prepare for it, and that means to make sure you’re ready to face Him, and then you do what you can to either survive until HE returns, or at the very least, just stay true to Him if you don’t survive.
The Bible is true. HE is coming back, but you must diligently study the Word in order to discern the signs of it.
Blessings to you.
YES, You must STUDY the word. JESUS (real name Yeshua) told us in His own words. “My people perish from lack of knowledge”! So yes, you are correct. He is coming back at the appointed time of GOD the FATHER. We must know the signs of the times. We have to be alert, aware, awake and spiritually alive to be able to discern these times. He also warned us … ‘Do not be deceived”… That was the first thing that He told His disciples at the sermon on the mount was that they would be “deceived”. We have been deceived and we may be again before it’s all said and done. Be a watchman on the wall and pay attention to what is going on so that you might be as prepared as possible to stand strong in that day…. It’s closer than we think. I think maybe as soon as 2028… So time is very short. Blessings and keep safe and remember, ‘Things are NOT always as they seem” !
Right on! You and I are on the same page. I just keep my head down and continue preparing for whatever comes.
THE biggest gaslighter in Canadian history is PM Turdy. He continually lectures everyone across the planet on “democracy” “human rights” etc etc while destroying EVERYTHING in Canada. He really is a text book example of gaslighting. If you can stomach watching this worm for about 10 seconds without peuking you’ll see a gaslighter.
Agreed – I’ve rarely seen anything like him. I recently saw a video of him saying that people had to take responsibility for their own decisions if they were damaged by the vaccine and nobody made them do it.
To combat gaslighting, read and support independent media: The Free Press, The Messenger, Glenn Greenwald, Matt Taibbi, Sharyl Attkisson, and of course The Organic Prepper.
Even then, read and as Miss Attkisson says, “Do your own research, Make up your own mind, Think for yourself.”
1944 Gaslighting is in my top ten favorites since I was a teen. It’s disgusting how many people conveniently “forget” what was pushed on the population as a whole in response to an imaginary plandemic. I just watched a short livestream by INSPIRED on Locals that was saying we’re a year away from everything going down as the WHO is getting ready to remove every freedom we hold dear and we’d better do something about it. Check this site for the details to that.
https://jamesroguski.substack.com/p/100-reasons
If they roll out another health scare, it’ll be bigger and “scarier” than the last one and they’ll try to use it to crush those of us that didn’t fall for the last one by turning us into the bad guys when we point out what really happened. The people who are happy being brainwashed will focus all their fear and hatred on those who choose not to live that way. It’s the plan to turn the people against themselves so the Powers That (shouldn’t) Be can keep their hands clean. Sitting back and doing nothing, while waiting for someone to save us is not an option, in my opinion.
Isn’t it “the Lord helps those who help themselves”?
Not sure where I read this but it said, “Your denial is their protection”. So true.
We’ve all been duped since children in this world. Our warfare is not against flesh and blood but principalities, spiritual forces of wickedness in high places. Responsibility on each of us seems lacking myself included. Deception abounds and has for a long time. Let’s each learn to love each other and pray for discernment and in the case of politics pray for our leaders. God appoints kings and takes them out of leadership. We all are still children in this world waiting for the true king Jesus Christ who will set things straight. Our job is to seek him in all our situations. He is not sleeping nor is he surprised by what’s happening. Better yet what can we each individually do to make things better. Let’s pray!
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and He will direct your path. Proverbs 3:5-7. We will all need Him even more as the days approach. Much love!
And Gorsuch had the balls to say ““The concentration of power in the hands of so few may be efficient and sometimes popular. But it does not tend toward sound government,” Gorsuch wrote.” The hypocrisy is astounding.
Daisy, I agree with the majority of what you said. I have minor differing views on a couple of points, but they’re not worth the effort of discussion.
I’ve finally come to terms with the reality that No Election can/will fix a government this corrupt. That’s difficult to accept I know, but the facts are what they are, and nothing we do working within this corrupted system will ever change it.
In over 40 years of Voting, I’ve come to two conclusions. The first is my Vote doesn’t matter. Not when rhe Vote is manipulated as it was in both 2020 and 2022 (though neither were the first time a US Election was manipulated). My Vote doesn’t count because my Vote generates at least two Votes opposite of mine.
The second conclusion is that in 40+ years of Voting, I’ve always been forced to choose between the Lesser Two Evils, and I’m sick and tired of having to choose.
The “long Train of Abuses and ursurpations” are at their limits for me.
It’s time we seriously consider the Blueprint our Founders gave us to address and correct a Corrupt Government.
Because we’re at the precipice of Civil War.
got evidence? or are you just gaslighting?
Thank you Daisy! This was succinct, and spoke to me on a personal level about my former work environment. HOWEVER, this was an article on GOVERNMENTAL gaslighting. What I appreciated most about it was that I can share this on social media, and my “drank the koolaid” leftist friends can also read it, and maybe have some of their blinders pushed aside about what is really happening in our country today. Very clever start, so that maybe, just maybe, they will read to the end…
Although you examples made it very very relatable, personal abuse is an entirely different topic, and needs to be discussed on its own forum. Perhaps a survival article about extracting oneself from an abusive situation? That seems like a relevant topic…
You have correctly noticed a cheating lover syndrome dominates society. This is what the Bible calls the “end times” when deception takes over the world before the arrival of the antichrist. Jesus saves if you want to miss out on the antichrist, tribulation and hellfire.
I know you don’t mean to do this , but it is traumatic and even unintentional gaslighting for a male who understands narcissistic relationships to have you only use him as the abuser and her as the victim when half the abusers are women ( see healing from hidden abuse “ or other books from experts . It’s just that men are seen as weak when they bring it up , women are better at hiding it and things like that , and men in prison were the only ones studied originally. Please get up to speed if you are going to use these examples. Thanks